How do you remain fearless in a world that wants you to be always afraid? In a world that seems to always be against one.
Well…..I ended up watching Casablanca yesterday and I’m taking a cue from the ever iconically cool Humphrey and Bergman. I’ve boiled it down to a 3 step process. Four if you count breathing, but since you have to do that anyway me telling you to breath calmly and deeply seems to not count. I’ll leave it up to you though.
First one must acknowledge the fear, the anxiety, apprehension, pain, distress, or whatever is.
Then one must accept it. It exists. Whether in your mind or in reality it is manifesting so it needs acknowledgment and acceptance that IT IS…..even things that solely exist with yourself still are real to you. They want and deserve to be acknowledged and accepted.
Only after you have done these two can you move to a place of appreciation. Look! Shitty things happen. Shitty things are felt, experienced, known, done, etc. It is inevitable. But if we can acknowledge and accept this we can move on to finding some gratitude. Darkness can not exist without light. One exists to contrast the other. We live in a world of opposition. A karmic wheel of balance, even if we don’t get to see the balance adjustments in our lifetime it exists. The price must be paid; forward, backward, in real time…it collects.
But in order to draw peace and hopefully happiness we must find the part we can appreciate in the equation. Without that gratitude; without being able to focus on the positive we may lose the entire lesson and almost inevitably bitterness follows.
I’ve been realizing over the last few days that my own anxiety derails positive outcomes. I can get so anxious and wrapped up in my own head that I don’t allow what is meant to be to be. I’ll bring up a simple case in point. I take my computer’s to a nice man that works out of his house. I like him. He is super smart. Self taught. He has a very interesting and eclectic background. He is what I consider a true geek. Essentially someone who relates to and communicates better with and through technology more so than to human peers.
I took in the teenagers laptop so he could look at it. It had taken a small dive off my bed when the 6 year old was jumping on it and refused to turn on. I sat and watched him tinker with it and explain a few things as he went for 20 minutes or more. All the while I’m hungry and wondering if I should leave it and exit or stay and hope it’s a quick fix. It’s about an hour to closing and he was fully engrossed in this new project I gave him without much feedback. So I calmly breathed through it and figured when I knew what I had to do I would know. So I just sat with it. Sat with my hunger. Sat with my anxiety. Sat and made myself be still within myself. Within 10 minutes more he had it fully operational. It had been a simple glitch that he says rarely happens. He charged me minimally and I left with a functional computer.
Had I rushed to leave. Had I interrupted him. Had I just left it maybe he would have put it aside. Maybe I wouldn’t have had it back that day. Maybe…. who knows what. But the lesson was. To just let things be. Let life be. When I need to know I will know. It’s the exact same with the healing. Things just come. I may not always understand them. I may not always get the why, but in life we aren’t always privileged to know the why anyway. So no use beating myself up.
If I just acknowledge, accept and appreciate what comes…. calmly, cooly, and collected….. it all seems to work out.
Here’s to life’s simplicity.
(I never say easy. I’m not that dumb.)