I do this with my kidlets, not so much the teenager anymore. But they all know to ask for ten minutes when they need it. Ten minutes of one on one, no device, no distractions time. We do whatever they want to do. Play a game, sit and talk, color, watch them explain a video game, it doesn’t matter what it is. It’s their time to have my complete attention.
But I was thinking wouldn’t it be cool to do this in a relationship too. Pick a day and set aside an hour and do whatever your partner wants to do. They want a blowjob followed by a back massage while they watch housewives of Beverly Hills? Done! You want to be fed chocolate cake while you pour your heart out about the kitty you had as a child. Done!
One hour of complete attention and even, more important, sincere interest in your partner. I imagine for some people the resentment between each other may be too strong to do this for an hour. But 10 minutes is a start. Lol
It always pleasantly amuses me when the 10 minutes I give to my children turns into 30 minutes of bonafide fun. You just never know where it will go, but when you open up to the possibilities and allow whatever happens to happen beautiful things can come.
But….. me personally….
I really need to get my head away from thinking about relationships. I need to maybe forget men exist and that sex is yummy for just a beat. I need to concentrate on more important matters. Put the libido and my heart on the back burner until I know where this train is headed. Right now, I’m feeling very “little engine that could” and I need to put all my mental, physical, emotional resources into getting over this mountain.
Hoping to God a beautiful, easy valley lays on the other side.
But right this exact moment I have to get rid of this damn UTI. 😜😂😭.