How long should it realistically take to find a lover?
I’m thinking this through and I’ve come to the conclusion that however long it takes is however long it takes. But I’m really hoping it’s not more than a few months.
I’m in a bit of a conundrum, as per usual, because I’ve narrowed it down to this…….
I want a man that is a genuinely good person. Not in the “I send my mom flowers on Mother’s day” way, but in a compassionate, every day way. Being deeply spiritual would be a nice bonus, but not necessary.
Then they have to truly enjoy sex, be open minded and have a decent size dick (6″) that works well and knows what to do with itself.
Then he has to have a comfortable home to host because I’m not bringing anyone to my basement.
I really don’t care about his job, money or looks. Age range preferred 35-55 but I’m flexible. Under 30 is uncomfortable and over 55 can get complicated with prostate issues and general health. Plus I like being active.
No married men, no poly because I want and need a lot of attention and even though I only propose to give this man 1 or 2 nights a week, I want him in full lust mode.
So yep…..I don’t think overall I’m asking for too much. This should be realistic. No? It’s just that I don’t think people generally prioritize a person’s character when they are seeking a sexual relationship and yet that is vitally important to me.
Why? Because I prefer to like and respect the person I’m fucking. And yes pretty boi’s are yummy and horny, big dick, bulls could potentially be sexually adequate.
But I know what I want and I’m willing to wait for it……..
Could it really be that hard?
I honestly don’t know. Eventually my life will settle into some normalcy and I’ll be settled somewhere and when that happens I can search for a partner and not just a lover. Right?
But that definitely isn’t now. I don’t really want to talk about my life. I don’t want to share my 5 year plan. I don’t want to tell anyone about my kids or my divorce or my ex. I just want to hang out with someone I like and fuck a lot. Maybe he will let me do my laundry at his place too. This all sounds reasonable. No?