about this whole dating/sex thing. Do men ever sit and wonder what makes women bitter?
I was talking to a single girlfriend and she puts right in her single app post “no men with ED”. And she said as soon as she did that half the men fell off. Half!
So she usually dates men half her age. Which I’m not opposed to. I have done it and it’s most definitely a lot of fun but….I prefer not to. Just like I prefer to not have a cuckold relationship. Just like I prefer to not be polyamory. Unlike when I say I absolutely won’t date married men.
There are things I’m curious about too. Like what would it be like to date a transvestite? That seems like it would be a lot of fun. What about dating a gay couple; although technically they’d be bi I guess. That whole label thing gets annoying.
On the one side, the world is my oyster. I owe no one anything, other than to my children the responsibility of being safe. Otherwise, I’m free to do as I damn well please. So that’s liberating and gives me hope and anticipation of fun times ahead. Right?
But on the other hand. I don’t care for one night stands. And I’m not super excited to keep putting myself out there when 1) I’m not feeling my best 2) men lie and omit too much important information 3) I’m so sick of being disappointed 4) I’m tired of feeling like I’m wasting my time. And then conversely men seem put off too.
On the dating app I’m like “hey, I’m giving you my attention and time, let’s just see what each other is about” and from a lot of men I get this “you’re just judging me and ticking negative marks against me until you move on so why should I try” feeling. Which I do get but it’s not fun. Dating should be fun, theoretically at least. 🙄
I told this last guy (that I just told to “sod off” basically) that I was going to concentrate on losing weight and then see about maybe dating a submissive.
That does sound like a good plan. But life is full of unstarted good plans. What will I actually do? That’s the question even I can’t answer right now.
I do know I’m taking the rest of the year to reevaluate and set some goals for next year. What those will be I have no idea. Maybe I’ll make categories of goals: simple, realistic, beneficial to my life, fun, and completely unrealistic (as in would probably require a few miracles). Lol
At least I can still laugh. Not bitter yet. So winner, winner chicken dinner!!!! Lol
Ay yay yay
Well…….. whatever, sex is just sex, love would be great, but I guess realistically I have bigger fish to fry right now.
C’est la vie.💋