Life is not about winning, not in the sense most people believe at least.
I think it’s about being genuine, happy and true to oneself.
And fortunately, most people really can’t live with the idea of being the bad guy in ever single storyline; especially not to the people they love.
Generally what I’ve mostly found to be true is that people lie to themselves and justify their behavior without actually seeing themselves as the “bad guy”, they tend to see themselves as the hero or even sometimes the victim.
So in that sense they are just being selfish fucking idiots, and not necessarily evil. Even if their actions do tend to justify the label quite well.
So how do we mitigate selfishness within society?
When society itself seems to revere that stance: strength, winning at all cost, lusting for power, coveting all that you see, yearning for more always.
And then add on that religion and spirituality is kept for Sunday mornings (or whatever day/time prescribed). You leave your anger and entitlement at the door of the church and pick it right back up on your way out. That’s all the commitment you need as long as you keep tithing. Most churches don’t really care about your soul’s salvation. They are driven by greed, misogyny and politics to keep the status quo.
I look at the world and it seems so much a labyrinth full of the illusions of despair vs elation, of them vs us, of promises of happily ever after while keeping us in the dark of the truth.
The truth of who we really are, of what we are capable of, of what we belong to, of the greatness of the whole of humanity and the universe we are so deeply entwined in and with.
I know we can’t get anywhere without true compassion, understanding and bridging of these gaps between us by means of respect and mutual kindness and consideration.
But with everything going on in the world this seems an impossible hurdle.
I suppose if we can just try individual to individual to heal, to be vulnerable and real, to see our own errors and hold our judgement we may find our way…….. together.
Because I truly believe together we can walk each other “home*” safer, faster, easier and more happily than any other way.
But I spose one does need to account for there being real evil too.
*Home to our own hearts and souls and our real salvation.