Unfortunately, as I’ve said before, little large scale analysis has been done on this subject. And a lot of what has been done is incorrect because most subjects studied are the ones that have been caught. But even so, the vast majority of caught subjects are male.
Now I believe most people don’t disclose any abuse they’ve suffered and men are even less likely to. Then there is another stigma of it not being abuse if it came from a woman.
We have so much to understand about this disorder. Having known so many and knowing how intelligent they are, how they fit into society so well, with no one suspecting anything at all about them, how easily they can get away with grooming new victims and targeting ones that have already suffered abuse.
It just sickens me. The fact that a lot of men abuse their own children too just because they have access to them and can. And how kids are stuck at home now and abuse is slated to go up by the metrics that people who study and understand this better than I do have already noted, is also sad to me.
I wish I had the money to open an institute to study this more and help people. I would want to help not just those suffering from this, who sometimes also have abusive backgrounds, but their victims as well.
One predator can affect dozens of lives. And yet as a society we turn a blind eye to it because we assume someone else is taking care of it. But the only people “helped” if that term can even be said, are the people in the system, i.e. caught…. and those generally are either the careless, less intelligent or less affluent ones.
It’s just interesting to me that this disorder skews so heavily male and yet most religious leaders are male as well. It is just a very odd thing to me.
I talk about this a lot as you all know, because it has affected my life deeply. It still does. And it’s something I can’t just shake off because I know it’s happening down the street, behind closed doors, behind veils of lies and guilt, to children that are too innocent to understand that it isn’t their fault.
I don’t ever want to “normalize” pedophilia or the act of it. But I wish we could acknowledge that it isn’t going away, that people of all walks of life suffer with this disorder alone with nowhere to turn for help and it isn’t right to leave that group of society to fend for themselves when they can cause so much harm to others, to society in general.
I’m not saying lock them all up. Frankly, it would be way too many people. What I’m saying is address it, put it out in the open, this exists, it is more rampant and common than we wish to believe and we can help. We can do something about it, by being a lot more proactive instead of reactive.
There are plenty of “pedophiles” who never touch a child. I’ve met some. To be a medically termed pedophile your main sexual drive has to be towards children. There are those that fill this criteria who never act on it. They need support.
We need to understand this disorder more fully to be able to help at the root, help before actions damage others.
It makes so much more sense to me. But I’ve given up my ideals of this world functioning not only logically but heart-centered. It just isn’t set up that way. Which is a real shame.
The world would be such a better place if it was more inclusive, cohesive and caring.
But…..all I can do is what I can do from my tiny little speck of space in this universe. I’ll never be able to help as much as I’d like to, but I’ll keep doing what I can, when I can.
And that’s all there is to it. 🤷🏽♀️