No box

How can I think inside the box when I can’t see a box?

All I see are these imaginary boundaries we put around ourselves and others.

They are shaped by who we think we are.

They encompass what we believe.

They attempt to define us

The universe we believe in

And who we see ourselves and all else as being within these contexts

But these boundaries

These imaginary walls

Are different for everyone

Even within well defined groups

They are ever so unique

So sure, put all the boundary type boxes together into their imaginary spot on some sort of graph and maybe the entire thing could be construed as a very abstract shape. But I doubt a box like shape at all. Maybe a quadrillion sided shape of some sort.

With all sides made up of thin wisps of air that create a small ripple right at the edge.

So imperceptible how could you call it any shape at all really?


That’s the supposed box? I guess if so I fit in there. Just like every single other all of us does.

After all, even in the context of said “box”, we are all stuck in this together. Why we can’t learn to use that as a positive is besides me. Use our differences as a force to help us survive as a race of people; on our beautiful planet with all of our however many different and unique individuals.

That’s how I see it.

So recap

Is there really a box to begin with?

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

6 thoughts on “No box”

  1. Well, there is a box and you probably – and usually – don’t see it because you’re already inside of it and you have, in fact, defined its dimensions on top of having some of them defined for you. Thinking inside the box is easy – we all just do it… but thinking outside of the box isn’t easy for a lot of people. The inside of the box contains that which we are comfortable with and what we know beyond any doubt; the outside of the box is unexplored territory; we know about what can be outside of our box – our comfort zone – but we’re not always inclined or have reason to step out of that self-created zone which, depending on the individual, can be whatever “size” they need it to be in order to be able to function and keeps their sensibilities intact.

    The box is the place from which we view the world around us and interact with it. What we want to do, what we can do and especially what we’re not going to do. Our box is a container of conventional thinking combined with personal experiences and this is where we live… but the box isn’t as rigid as it’s imagined to be since we do and can step out of the box in order to get something done and, again, we don’t notice this because we’re in the box and not outside of it as an observer.

    Now it’s just an issue of how far you’re willing to step outside of your box – your comfort zone – in order to do whatever you have to do. Because the human brain is “programmed” to compartmentalize things, we all have different boxes of differing sizes and any time you expand your horizons in any thing, your box’s boundaries also expand – easily or not so much depending on what it is.

    Are we all in the same box? Of course not – we’re not all the same but we do have areas of commonality that, perhaps, we should be more focused on rather than that which makes us different within our respective boxes since, factually, we all have our own boxes from which we operate from. The walls aren’t imaginary – they are very real and all one has to do it to take a really good look at themselves to see the box they live in. The question is always how far are you willing to step outside of the box you’re already in? How far can you expand your comfort zone and make your box bigger?

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    1. I don’t think I need my box bigger personally. It’s plenty big. It’s huge. So big I can see the boundaries. I have a few parameters I give myself but I don think it’s a box.

      I think I’m too unconventional as it is. If anything I think some people would like me in a much smaller box. In fact I’m sure of it.

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      1. No doubt there are those who’d want to stick you into a smaller box! In this, we individually set the boundaries of our box/comfort zone through a lot of trial and error while being aware of the box society and morality wants us to be in… and then there’s all the other people who are of a mind to suggest that our zones shouldn’t be so… expansive and we should be more reserved or even less reserved – depends on who you happen to be talking to and all that.

        I’ve been asked if I have any boundaries and I say that I do; everyone has a point they will not go beyond as well as a point they will not go back to. My box – my comfort zone – is pretty big and I’ve been told that I need to be more like everyone else – where’s the fun in that? I can be conventional when I have to be but being unconventional allows for more life experiences, more opportunities, and provides a broader worldview. Why stay stuck in a tiny box when life tends to be more… exciting when you expand your horizons? Thinking outside of the box and even operating outside of it makes a lot of people nervous while for others, it’s business as usual. Some interesting psychology going on with this topic.

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        1. Indeed.

          I wholeheartedly agree. I’ve had experiences I can’t even begin to explain logically to people to entrenched in all the boxes available to be had. And while I agree we need boundaries; like when I talk about consent, age and desire for sex. Boundaries about how to treat people, nature, ourselves. Boundaries around deceit, coveting, envy, etc. the heavy hitters of morality. But barring those there is such a huge expanse of things to see and experience and understand and feel that to box myself into one form of thinking, being, accepting, experiencing would be not only boring but redundant. What new things would I learn? How would I be challenged to grow? 5 years from now I want to be a whole new me and how on earth will that be possible staying in the comfort of an unimaginative and far too comforting little box? Lol


          1. It doesn’t make much sense to confine yourself or to keep yourself in a tiny-assed box when there’s so much to see and do outside of it. If not for my ability to be outside of the box, there are a lot of things I would have never experienced or even known about. Staying in a tiny box might be… safe but, yeah, it sounds pretty boring to me and, I think, you really don’t get to see the world as it really is and can be if you never, ever, look past your existing boundaries.

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