Battle of the sexes – cleaning

I’ve been very fortunate to have people available and wanting to help me during this transition period in my life.

My daughter’s best friends entire family came to help me set up for the garage sale one afternoon. Several neighbors have lent me their teenagers at a very reasonable rate to help me organize, clean and move things. I’ve also contacted Voz, which is a local company that hires out day laborers, for the deep clean.

I have used them quite a bit since moving to Portland. Overall with great results. Unfortunately they have mostly all male workers so trying to get a female is hit and miss. Which is unfortunate. Not that I don’t think men can clean. They can and do an excellent job because they have more brute force and are very detail oriented, but women (to me) seem much more efficient.

Maybe that has to do with time management skills or experience but the women don’t necessarily outperform the men, they are just more expedient and need less oversight. But all this is just generally speaking of course.

Voz charges $17 an hour and all the money goes directly to the worker and I get that these are men having to feed their families and that they are willing to come and clean but it isn’t that affordable when they take a long time and need to be supervised and moved along.

They are really great at heavy labor though and this is an intense little cleanup I have to get done and I need to save as many pennies as I can right now. So let’s hope for the best and I’ll just strap on my supervisor pack.

Then I have very fortunately crossed paths with a great local handyman that is super nice and very skilled and he only charges me $25/hr which I am super grateful for.*

There are nice people in the world. There are win/wins where everyone benefits in their one way, meeting their own needs. Some people genuinely like to help, which I completely comprehend and appreciate greatly.

And I’m thankful that’s how we humans are. It’s our generosity, kindness and connection that defines our best attributes. I could focus on the bad ones, but that never makes me happy and being grateful for the good truly does.

Because we can be such beautiful creatures, all of us; male, female and all the in betweens. Lol



I’ve noted since living here that labor in Portland is paid higher than California, even though the cost of living is now about on par. And Oregon is one of the most expensive states for childcare, which speaks to either a lack of workers or an appreciation for the work people do and for children. I like to think it’s the latter reason but I haven’t really looked into it. Lol

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

2 thoughts on “Battle of the sexes – cleaning”

    1. It has the capacity to turn a negative into a positive.

      I look at it this way. When you focus on the silver lining instead of the dark cloud you now have given yourself permission to see something positive and be happy. This is why I say happiness is an option; a choice. There is obviously an extreme of mania, depression, overtoxicity, illness, where it is harder to achieve that. But generally speaking we all have a choice every moment of our lives on choosing what we want to focus on. Most of us do it subconsciously, without acknowledgement whatsoever, but it doesn’t have to be that way. We can direct our attention, we can direct where we give our energy to; towards healing or towards ill.

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