It’s my own riff off of love languages
I’ve personally identified these three
Emotional abuse (love/)pain language
Physical abuse (love/)pain language
Sexual abuse (love/)pain language
Now these are much more visceral than the love languages
These stake their claim on your psyche much stronger
Because they are a big part of your subconscious
And can even be a huge part of your conscious identity
I’m sure there are many more (love/)pain languages
Having to neatly compartmentalize them into something catchy that sounds really gimmicky
Now that’s another thing.
*But I think these patterns are much more significant to your life than love languages because you will do almost anything to either consciously avoid or subconsciously relive these languages that have been defaulted to you through past experiences of abuse and pain.