Is it fair to be disappointed in something or someone when you put expectations onto them they didn’t ask for? I like to believe everyone and everything can rise up to be their best; but that doesn’t mean, even then, that it will be what one wants or needs. Does it?
I remember hearing my ultra conservative ex FIL (father in law) talk about naked drug induced pool parties full of sex and wildness. I was gobmacked. I literally could not believe it. I finally asked. He looked at me very seriously and said “Those were the times, everyone was doing it. Everyone was like that. You just went along with it.”
And it made me sad on so many levels. It still does.