I say this to more people than I’ve realized. Lol.
Sure, everyone has certain parameters that individually we must live within, to great degree, but within that space there is room to live on our own terms. Or rather one can make that conscious decision and effort. But so often we don’t even bother to think about that.
I said this to someone with terminal cancer yesterday. I’ve said it to people with manic depression. I’ve said it to drug addicts. Figure out where the edges are, real or self imposed, and then figure out within that space how you want to live your life. What you expect from yourself and this existence.
If not, you’re no better than a leaf in the wind, which is fine, if that’s what you want, if that’s a decision or lack of decision but be aware of it.
I think it’s good to have an idea. It’s good to have ” expectations”. Now are they pliable? I suppose in life, in general, it is good to be malleable to great degree. But this got me to thinking… what are my terms? What is it I most want out of my day to day life? Out of this entire thing? And I started my own list. (I love lists.) But I think I need to go bigger, bolder, broader. The list right now is very generic and basic.
But…. I personally see now, that above all other things, I truly want to live this life fearlessly. I don’t mean carrying a gun and toting a chip on my shoulder. I mean open, lovingly and yet standing firm in my own convictions. Holding my own code of conduct for myself, even when no one is watching; irregardless of how others behave. These are the conscious choices that seep into one’s unconscious and become who we truly are.
Basically….. I want to live the values I believe in. I want to be true to the spirit within myself that unites us all; even if most people choose to not see it, let alone live it. But because I know it’s true this is how I want to live my life. With that conscious knowledge at the forefront.
These are part of “my terms” of how I want to want to live the rest of this existence. But alas, like most all things, easier said than done. But if I don’t decide, if I don’t make that effort I won’t be living on my own terms. I won’t be true to myself and….. what way to live is that?
One life, that’s all one has here. One life!! Seems worth it to me. Yes? Maybe? 🤷🏽♀️🤔😝