My dad married a woman younger than me. A pretty woman which when they met was a Hawaiian dance instructor. It really devastated me quite a bit and set my self esteem down a few notches when that happened. It was one of the many causes for me to start seeing a psychologist professionally…. actually.
He asked me about it one day and I asked him how he’d feel if I went out with a man his age, but that was the wrong question. I should have asked him how she would react if I married a man far my junior, who was incredibly handsome and had a nice income. What example would I be setting for her? How would that make you feel?
The unfortunate truth is that this isn’t the norm. Not the dating young men part but the financial freedom part. Wealth is very disproportionate on this planet. He has to know that if she were independently wealthy the chances of them being together would be virtually non-existent.
This has been on my mind with the rash of men marrying women less than their granddaughters age. It’s not necessarily wrong, it’s just creepy. Really. A bit. Gotta say.
It reminds me of this surgeon I once dated. He told me that it must be his personality or something he couldn’t pin down why 90% of the women he dated slept with him on the first date (I was in the 10%).
I laughed a bit too hard when he said that and then I said ” So you think the scrubs photo in the medical office on your profile has nothing to do with it?”.
I was most obviously alluding to the fact he is a surgeon but was subtle enough he probably didn’t get it. I think. But then again he didn’t laugh. Lol
Like let’s not kid ourselves here. If men are perfectly happy living in an alternate reality where they can justify to themselves being loved mostly for their money. Great.
Don’t grow. Don’t learn from your mistakes. Don’t see where problems may lie within yourself. Nope. Just keep being delusional. Well… but who can blame them really? Seems to be a problem with the entirety of civilization really.