Quality of life

I say this so often to people. Your day to day quality of life is so important; how do you feel? How is your body functioning? How is your emotional health? How is your stress level and stress management?

It’s great to look at the big picture but for day to day living it’s the quality of your being and your life that matters and yet it seems to get lost in the shuffle for so many of us.

Simply going through the motions of living. Why? For what end goal? What’s the purpose of that? Is it like delaying reality for another day or time? I honestly don’t get it. Which is probably why I say it so much. It’s about the day to day, moment by moment quality of one’s life.

How’s your soul doing? What’s this journey looking like for you? That’s the key to true happiness and fulfilment, as far as I can tell. If it’s something you haven’t even looked at or acknowledge then that’s the place to start maybe. I definitely don’t have all the answers always but I can sometimes provide the right questions.


I honestly hadn’t realized until last night just how angry I’ve been. And I hadn’t realized how much keeping that in and down (as if in lockdown mode) was affecting so much else. And I don’t have a solution for it, but I can see it more clearly. I can see myself better. This is one step more towards the self mastery I am seeking or as Pam says “sovereignty”; which makes it sound oh so very regal. Doesn’t it? Lol πŸ’‹

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

4 thoughts on “Quality of life”

  1. At some point, you kinda stop looking at the big picture because it distracts you from being in the moment. Quality of life isn’t so much about what you do but how you go about doing it and then being of sound mind and body to do things that mean something to you.

    Many of us wind up going through life with the stress monkey draped all over us and affection our physical and emotional health and more so when we’re chasing the visions of the big picture when we should be more in the moment – being in the now instead of trying to live in a future that may or may not present itself.

    Going through the motions is what we have to do – just, again, a matter of how you do it and what drives you: That sense of purpose thing that many of us can’t seem to operate without. And a lot of the stress we wind up suffering is of our own doing because we’re looking ahead… and not thinking about being in the now of things. We say, “One thing at a time and take one day at a time…” but we don’t always practice what we preach. We also say that we should worry about today and tomorrow will take care of itself – maybe it does, maybe it needs some help. We understand the wisdom of being in the now, being only in the moment… but the big picture almost demands that we keep chasing it, creating stresses along the way and doing anything other than chasing your big picture seems to be counterproductive.

    Until something happens to make you live in the moment or you wise up and realize that you need to be more in the moment than trying to be in that future that, again, may or may not ever happen.

    Being angry and holding it in… one of the most destructive things we do to ourselves. I used to carry around a lot of anger until I asked myself if it made any sense to be angry and more so over shit I couldn’t do anything about. The trick is to not be angry and I will tell you that had I not studied the martial arts when I was younger, I wouldn’t have been able to set my anger aside and be at peace with myself. We recognize this in ourselves and we think the solution is to find an outlet for our anger by doing other things but the thing I learned to do was to take my anger and make it work for me instead of against me, to use that “energy” to do something instead of letting the anger stress me out because, at least to me, nothing else makes any sense.

    When you hold anger in, you gotta seriously ask yourself if doing so makes any damned sense and more so if you’re angry about shit that has already happened… and nothing you can do is going to change what has happened. It takes a huge measure of self-control to tell yourself, “Stop being angry. Just stop.” You still wind up dealing with situations that will anger you – it’s unavoidable, really – but it’s not that you get angry: It’s what you do when you do get angry. And if you hold it in, well, that should, in and of itself, make you angry because you know you shouldn’t do that and given how harboring anger isn’t good for you at all.

    And then you somehow just learn how not to let your anger get the best of you – you “stop” being angry and you sure as hell don’t hold onto it AND if you need to direct that energy somewhere else, well, that’s what you do – get a punching bag or something you can beat up that won’t hurt you – and take your anger out on that instead of taking it out on someone else.

    I don’t get mad – I get even… but it’s what goes on in my head that really makes a difference because to be able to live in each and every moment, I have to ask myself if it makes sense to be mad about something that, chances are, I can’t do anything about. The answer is almost always no – it doesn’t make sense – and I just stop being angry.

    Sounds easy – not even close to being easy; but if you’re at a point in your life where the quality of your life is being severely impacted – including your soul – you will find a way to change things so that you have more enjoyable moments than those moments that aren’t enjoyable.

    How’s the quality of my life? Pretty good, all things considered and I know it can be worse – but very damned happy that it isn’t. To that end, the one thing I have always kept in mind that when you think you really have it bad, there is someone somewhere in the world who has it worst than you do… and that you can imagine.

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    1. Yes true. But I don’t like to play the compare and contrast game. We all carry our crosses and yes some are unimaginably hard.

      I’m doing this hard work for me and for my children and it’s worth the aches and pains of such deep self evaluation. I’ve dug up some things I didn’t want to look at and sat with them long enough to be ok with them. Which was hard as hell. But I got past it and got to a better place with myself and that was priceless.

      So the journey continues and I can he pressed to look up or down. I’ve just got to keep looking within for the keys and answers to all the questions and tribulations I encounter. It’s there, here waiting to be discovered. I’m sure of it. Now more than ever.

      I just like shining that light for others too. The rough journey polishes and brings out the beauty of the soul, if allowed to.

      I veered I think. 🀣


      1. There are, my dear, a lot of games we wind up playing that we’d prefer not to. But you, like many of us, have that sense of purpose, that reason or reasons why we bust our asses and stress ourselves out and, sometimes, dangerously so… because it’s not only worth it but it’s what we’re supposed to do.

        Then we discover that we really should be working smarter and not harder; we realize that if we get jacked up in any kind of way, our sense of purpose winds up getting dinged as well and puts us on the path of abject failure… and that can never be allowed to happen.

        Which is why Rule Number One is so damned important: Look after your own ass first. If you can’t do the things to take care of yourself, you won’t be able to do what you gotta do for anyone else.

        And, yes, you veered… but that’s okay.

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        1. Yes. Having a hard time right now taking care of myself. Officially depressed, but I know it’s situational not systemic and when this ordeal ends I will be better. Just not sure which of the many ordeals I’m actually referring to is all. πŸ€·πŸ½β€β™€οΈπŸ™„πŸ˜¬


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