Loneliness kills

I was reading this article from Psychology Today about loneliness being as bad for your health as smoking more than 1/2 a pack a day.

I got the idea to research it after I was watching a fictional TV show and the woman says “loneliness kills more people than cancer” and that seemed like it could actually be possible. So out of curiosity I went looking for an answer. It’s sad that this is a thing. We literally live right on top of each other and yet we are so isolated.

This obviously goes for me too. Which is why it resonates. I’m not particularly depressed or concerned about it, but it is something I want to work on. Because it’s the ever wonderful win/win, theoretically at least. Plus, I do so enjoy people and in reaching out I help myself too. It’s the primary reason why I am such a strong advocate for volunteer work.

I don’t have the time or energy to commit to a single thing more right now though. So I’ll have to schedule some time to reach out to people who’s company I enjoy and see if they want to do something. I say this and already in the back of my mind I’m like “am I really going to do that?”. Lol

I suppose the thought precedes the action. So….. I got the first one down. We’ll see how far I get. 😂🙃😋

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

6 thoughts on “Loneliness kills”

  1. When you can be in a room full of people and feel like you’re all alone, that’s not a good thing. Isolation of this kind messes with the mind; it tells you that you need to interact more… but you’re (not you) of a mind that you don’t wanna be bothered, there’s no point in being outwardly social, don’t have the time or desire to be social, stuff like that.

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      1. Everyone lies… even to themselves. Such things aren’t liked very much but it’s part of the nature of us. We insist that honesty is the best policy… and it isn’t in every situation.

        People demand the truth… and when they hear it, they can’t handle it. Our society is built on a bunch of lies; if you believe in religion, that’s a lie, too. Do you believe in monogamy? You’re believing yet another lie.

        And that’s the whole thing; just because there are lies doesn’t mean you’re required to believe them… even those lies I just mentioned.

        A lot of women believe they’re better off being alone… and that, too, is a lie. Some women say they love sex… but they don’t really need it… and that’s yet another lie and especially if they’re aware of how sex is tied to one’s mental health. Feeling edgy? Kinda “itchy” and restless? You (not you) know a romp in the bed with someone would make you feel better… but you lie to yourself and say it ain’t worth the effort; you have better things to do, stuff like that.

        Some “expert” wrote that half the decisions we make are based on a lie and/or faulty information provided by others. Maybe this is true – I couldn’t say – but if someone lies to me, I’m not required to believe it and depending on what the lie was about, bleh, it’s not worth the time to rake them over the coals for it… but if it is, then it is and it gets dealt with.

        People lie. We know this to be true. We don’t have to like it; we just gotta deal with it sometimes.

        The most hypocritical person, in my opinion, is the person who’ll say they hate liars with a passion… and will tell a lie when it suits their purposes to do so.

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      2. I agree. Yes. We should never trust the person that says they never lie. Lol.

        But I do wish we lived in a world of transparency. So many of our societal issues would be resolved or at least dealt with or accepted or handled better than we handle them now if it weren’t for deception.

        Half of what we do is based on lies. That’s stark. There are lies we know, lies we don’t know, lies we perpetuate without even knowing, lies that are given to us unbeknownst to us or even those giving them sometimes. It’s ALL so convoluted….is the worst thing. Which is why I am so much a I will just keep my mouth shut or I will speak my truth kind of person. Who knows how much of that itself is lies really.

        Catch up with me at the end and we’ll go over all the notes. 😂😂😂

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      3. But how do we know if/when someone is transparently lying to us? Governments do it all the time, right? So you either accept the lie as told… or you go digging for the truth and, usually,when they find the truth, um, they like it a whole lot less.

        Then we lie to ourselves and say, “Well, it was good they told the truth…” when that truth has shattered your life into a billion pieces. No, it really wasn’t, was it?

        You just have to choose what you’re gonna believe and what you aren’t and don’t worry about the shit you ain’t gonna believe if you don’t have to.

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      4. There are the “truths” built for us, the “truths” we build ourselves and those that come smack us awake. It’s been a heck of a hard knocks life but those knocks have opened doors to conscious and subconscious understanding I never would have gotten in a cozy little hamlet of platitudes. Or so I justify the pain I’ve endured by telling myself this. Yet…..it does seem to ring true to me and like you said….that’s all I need to concern myself with. My own inner truths and those that come for me, “good” or “bad”.

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