Why FLR? Why be owned?

I was discussing the virtues of being owned with KDaddy. There are so many positives I see, for both sides.

First, there is the level of intimacy and honesty that is necessary in the D/s lifestyle. There is a vulnerability and transparency that most relationships only skirt over. There is a depth of truth and trust that is food for the soul.

For me personally an FLR is the only relationship I can really be in. For starters because I don’t take orders. I don’t need decisions made for me. I need someone to be my equal in strength of character and intelligence, but more importantly I need them to embrace my desires and needs as much or more than they do their very own. And happily submit to them in almost all circumstances. I don’t really do humiliation, especially not publicly. I haven’t been with a partner who has challenged me to do this for them. To me it’s really more of a proving of adoration and ultimate devotion thing. However and whenever possible, in ways beyond my own design even.

But this subjugation comes with many privileges. Because in order for one to lead effectively one must know their subject inside and out. One must know what motivates and drives them. One must understand their weaknesses and one must open space for them to be their best self possible within all realms of their own life, any way that needs to be done. All with an equal amount, albeit power skewed version, of devotion, adoration, care and consideration.

There is this opening up of oneself in ones entirety that I absolutely need and that goes both ways. It just presents differently. Power dynamics form in every relationship whether they are discussed and understood or not. I just like mine to be purposefully done. I am of the mind that rules and protocols are a good thing. They set boundaries and expectations, which if met receive the most true, deep and wanted accolades. So the sub gets their deepest needs met as an appreciation and demonstration of caring and the depth of understanding of their needs; fulfilled as only a Dominant can.

Pleasure, pain, punishment, ecstacy all intermingled to build a relationship that forms its own mold over and over to adapt to the changing needs of the people involved. Never stagnating, never becoming boring because it is the inherent job of both to maintain each other’s happiness at optimal levels to ultimately ensure their own happiness. It’s the epitome of the ultimate codependency and I love it. All of it.

It’s the most fulfilling relationship there can be. At least that’s what I have seen and experienced. To each his/her own though. πŸ˜‰πŸ’‹πŸ’–

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

4 thoughts on “Why FLR? Why be owned?”

  1. lmao You deleted your stoned post? I thought it was funny. I like FLR because I’m internally a very cocky guy with an inflated sense of self importance, so giving control balances me out. I’m naturally reserved but deep down inside even if I’m being humble I still feel that egotistical superiority. The only way to chase it away is when I’m humbled through control and sometimes emasculation. The feeling of humiliation comes hand in hand with that. It’s really refreshing!

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    1. Yes but when you emasculate with love and being given free reign to do so it doesn’t feel like humiliation to me. It feels like complete devotion.

      I know I can’t just do it to do it. Or rather I can but it is not as satisfying as doing it because the desire to possess overtakes you completely.

      That’s the best high I’ve ever had.


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