I was discussing the virtues of being owned with KDaddy. There are so many positives I see, for both sides.
First, there is the level of intimacy and honesty that is necessary in the D/s lifestyle. There is a vulnerability and transparency that most relationships only skirt over. There is a depth of truth and trust that is food for the soul.
For me personally an FLR is the only relationship I can really be in. For starters because I don’t take orders. I don’t need decisions made for me. I need someone to be my equal in strength of character and intelligence, but more importantly I need them to embrace my desires and needs as much or more than they do their very own. And happily submit to them in almost all circumstances. I don’t really do humiliation, especially not publicly. I haven’t been with a partner who has challenged me to do this for them. To me it’s really more of a proving of adoration and ultimate devotion thing. However and whenever possible, in ways beyond my own design even.
But this subjugation comes with many privileges. Because in order for one to lead effectively one must know their subject inside and out. One must know what motivates and drives them. One must understand their weaknesses and one must open space for them to be their best self possible within all realms of their own life, any way that needs to be done. All with an equal amount, albeit power skewed version, of devotion, adoration, care and consideration.
There is this opening up of oneself in ones entirety that I absolutely need and that goes both ways. It just presents differently. Power dynamics form in every relationship whether they are discussed and understood or not. I just like mine to be purposefully done. I am of the mind that rules and protocols are a good thing. They set boundaries and expectations, which if met receive the most true, deep and wanted accolades. So the sub gets their deepest needs met as an appreciation and demonstration of caring and the depth of understanding of their needs; fulfilled as only a Dominant can.
Pleasure, pain, punishment, ecstacy all intermingled to build a relationship that forms its own mold over and over to adapt to the changing needs of the people involved. Never stagnating, never becoming boring because it is the inherent job of both to maintain each other’s happiness at optimal levels to ultimately ensure their own happiness. It’s the epitome of the ultimate codependency and I love it. All of it.
It’s the most fulfilling relationship there can be. At least that’s what I have seen and experienced. To each his/her own though. 😉💋💖