New York, New York

I was just reading an article that said that New York was the least friendly city in the entire USA. I thought it funny and appropriate with me being here now. I’ve only ever been here once before, over 25 years ago, for the exact same reason, to visit my great aunt. She’s 93 now, her health is fragile, and all of her dearest friends and family have moved or died. But she refuses to leave the city.

She is lucky to have a rent controlled apartment. She has lived here most of her life, and in this little Riverside Drive apartment for longer than I’ve been alive, in fact it will be 60 years coming up here. I can’t imagine how much has changed in that time.

It’s currently 90 degrees and she has no a/c or even a fan. She gets an ok cross breeze if we leave the front door open. Which she can do here safely she says and I’ll have to take her word for it because it’s too hot not to leave it open.

New York is a great city to visit and I can see living here maybe if you’re rich. But then again what place wouldn’t be fun to live in being rich?

I’m here to help her any way I can and also realistically probably to say goodbye. She doesn’t travel anymore and I felt it necessary to come now, I don’t have an answer to why, but I followed my heart contrary to what my pocket book told me.

I absolutely refuse to come to New York for a funeral or anywhere for that matter. I find the notion odd. Why would I drop everything to pay “respect”, especially if I didn’t bother to drop everything to actually in real time, while they were alive, show my love and respect and devotion. Seems absurd to me, but then again so do most human customs.

It’s like I remember telling the tech that was doing my liver ultrasound at the ER. He was talking about how his marriage was in trouble. I felt for him: young guy, sweet. I asked him how many people were at his wedding. He said about 200. I said, theoretically, those friends and family members that were so keen to be a part of your special day should be the same people to be there for you to support your marriage, to help you in times like these. At least a fraction of them…..you’d think.

I so do not get weddings either though honestly. The farce and pageantry of it all seems to far outweigh the actual meaning of it. I wasn’t ever a dreamt of a wedding kind of girl though.

Anyway. Veered way off.

I think tomorrow I’ll help her clean and maybe if she lets me throw out some stuff and organize a bit. She needs new shoes too and a FAN. Lol

I feel for her. I love her so much. She has always been one of my favorite people in the world. She’s full blooded Cuban and she refuses meals on wheels because the food is “American” and bland she says. Lol. She refuses a caretaker because she doesn’t trust anyone. She’s already fallen a few times and had a few strokes. But I’ll do all I can while I’m here, which seeing how thing are isn’t enough time.

My mother says to me before I came “make sure you take her to eat Mexican food”. I found that a bizarre request. I asked her why specifically that and she tells me “well, she’s never had it”. More dumbfound I could not be. Granted she was a great cook in her own right but seriously? Lol. I wonder if that has anything to do with how some Latinos like to distance themselves from Mexicans. As if well…..to say it bluntly…..they were better. I’ve seen it so much that it just makes me laugh.

It’s like how the British and Australians also tend to see themselves as better than Americans. Every culture has its nuances. I find it a stupid contest to begin with and wouldn’t it depend who’s judging anyway. Lol. Dumb notions if you ask me.

So yea. New York. I doubt I’ll get to any sight seeing. Last time we went to a few places. The most memorable being having drinks at the top of the Twin Towers. Still haven’t been to the Statue of Liberty or the theater or Coney Island or even any of the Burroughs. Lol. This isn’t that sort of trip though, unless I plan on venturing out alone. We’ll see. Not at the top of my list though.

Alright. I gotta shower. This heat is starting to get to me. Lol 💋

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

11 thoughts on “New York, New York”

      1. The truth is not all NYC residents are rude; since I live on the east coast, I’ve been to NYC more times than I care to remember and I’ve run into more polite people than rude ones.

        That city is busy 24/7, hence their other nickname as the City That Never Sleeps and I guess they’re so busy being busy they don’t “have time to be nice to everyone” or something.

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      2. Maybe. I’ve not seen that much of it myself either honestly. I did have one gentleman comment how I was in appropriately dressed last time I was here. I laughed. I didn’t understand at all what he was talking about. In CA we dress however we feel. He didn’t like that I was wearing boots during the summer with a dress. That was the extent of the rudeness I’ve encountered here but who knows. Lol. Like sex studies a lot of these statistics are based on self reporting. So, how accurate can they really be?

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      3. Well, offhand, I’d say that guy has never been to California! I have… and y’all are different, to be sure but not so unusual to me, anyway. I did my time in the Air Force in California and I’ve traveled there quite a few times for business and to visit family when they were there – and I think Californians are delightfully weird.

        Once you get a reputation, it just sticks with you… even if you’ve really done nothing to earn that reputation. Once it gets stuck to you, there’s not much you can do to get rid of it if that rep is undeserved. I know that NYC keeps working on their rep and it is a great place to visit… I wouldn’t want to live there, though – the cost of living there is insane!

        But it’s a reputation that no matter how much positive PR they put out there, they will always be known for their world-famous rudeness and the only people on the planet ruder that the denizens of NYC are, in my experiences, Parisians, who I know are both horribly rude and arrogant in their rudeness and especially if you don’t or can’t speak passable French.

        They know of their rep and like NYC, quite proud of it.

        Yep… here on the East Coast and in the summer, wearing a summer dress with boots looks pretty weird and out of place; nope, not even surprised that someone said something to you about it. Now, if you had that dress on with sandals or flip-flops, no one would have even noticed you unless the cut of your dress was… interesting, to be polite.

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      4. Lol.

        There is one guy here on the news that has been caught hitting white people on the head in Manhattan. Seems a bit more than rude though. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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  1. You are pretty awesome. Pretty cool of you to take the time and do what you can for her. I bet it gives her a real sense of pride and joy to see our love ones come and hang out with us…. You are so correct about funeral. There is one part you are missing though, a funeral is a gathering of many people you once new and for some of us its the only time that we see these people. There are many people who cross our paths that as life flies by us we only have a glimpse of that part of us. Funeral can give you people that you completely forgot about (oh shit, I cant believe I forgot that) or (Oh man, did I really do that? Yuck….LOL) Its a gathering of different parts of our lives with people that were there for a moment…. That is how they are for me any how. Have some fun, she maybe old but she is not dead yet…lol
    peace love and happiness

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    1. Thanks. Yes. That’s true. Weddings and funerals do bring people together like not much else seems to. It’s still strange to me but I can definitely see your point.

      Thanks. This adventure is turning into quite a huge endeavor and I can’t imagine doing this for that many people in the world, but here we are. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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