I was just reading an article that said that New York was the least friendly city in the entire USA. I thought it funny and appropriate with me being here now. I’ve only ever been here once before, over 25 years ago, for the exact same reason, to visit my great aunt. She’s 93 now, her health is fragile, and all of her dearest friends and family have moved or died. But she refuses to leave the city.
She is lucky to have a rent controlled apartment. She has lived here most of her life, and in this little Riverside Drive apartment for longer than I’ve been alive, in fact it will be 60 years coming up here. I can’t imagine how much has changed in that time.
It’s currently 90 degrees and she has no a/c or even a fan. She gets an ok cross breeze if we leave the front door open. Which she can do here safely she says and I’ll have to take her word for it because it’s too hot not to leave it open.
New York is a great city to visit and I can see living here maybe if you’re rich. But then again what place wouldn’t be fun to live in being rich?
I’m here to help her any way I can and also realistically probably to say goodbye. She doesn’t travel anymore and I felt it necessary to come now, I don’t have an answer to why, but I followed my heart contrary to what my pocket book told me.
I absolutely refuse to come to New York for a funeral or anywhere for that matter. I find the notion odd. Why would I drop everything to pay “respect”, especially if I didn’t bother to drop everything to actually in real time, while they were alive, show my love and respect and devotion. Seems absurd to me, but then again so do most human customs.
It’s like I remember telling the tech that was doing my liver ultrasound at the ER. He was talking about how his marriage was in trouble. I felt for him: young guy, sweet. I asked him how many people were at his wedding. He said about 200. I said, theoretically, those friends and family members that were so keen to be a part of your special day should be the same people to be there for you to support your marriage, to help you in times like these. At least a fraction of them…..you’d think.
I so do not get weddings either though honestly. The farce and pageantry of it all seems to far outweigh the actual meaning of it. I wasn’t ever a dreamt of a wedding kind of girl though.
Anyway. Veered way off.
I think tomorrow I’ll help her clean and maybe if she lets me throw out some stuff and organize a bit. She needs new shoes too and a FAN. Lol
I feel for her. I love her so much. She has always been one of my favorite people in the world. She’s full blooded Cuban and she refuses meals on wheels because the food is “American” and bland she says. Lol. She refuses a caretaker because she doesn’t trust anyone. She’s already fallen a few times and had a few strokes. But I’ll do all I can while I’m here, which seeing how thing are isn’t enough time.
My mother says to me before I came “make sure you take her to eat Mexican food”. I found that a bizarre request. I asked her why specifically that and she tells me “well, she’s never had it”. More dumbfound I could not be. Granted she was a great cook in her own right but seriously? Lol. I wonder if that has anything to do with how some Latinos like to distance themselves from Mexicans. As if well…..to say it bluntly…..they were better. I’ve seen it so much that it just makes me laugh.
It’s like how the British and Australians also tend to see themselves as better than Americans. Every culture has its nuances. I find it a stupid contest to begin with and wouldn’t it depend who’s judging anyway. Lol. Dumb notions if you ask me.
So yea. New York. I doubt I’ll get to any sight seeing. Last time we went to a few places. The most memorable being having drinks at the top of the Twin Towers. Still haven’t been to the Statue of Liberty or the theater or Coney Island or even any of the Burroughs. Lol. This isn’t that sort of trip though, unless I plan on venturing out alone. We’ll see. Not at the top of my list though.
Alright. I gotta shower. This heat is starting to get to me. Lol 💋