Tired of talking about my problems

God I’m so sick of it. I’ve told 3 people about my problems in the last few days and I feel worse for it. Talking about it just stirs it all up, gets me all emotional. It’s been a lot….. way to much.

I need to step away from it all. It’s not a need to bury my head in the sand. It’s my need to focus on the positive, on what I can do, on what I can be grateful for, on what makes me and my life happy.

I just can’t go around complaining and explaining it and not feel the intense pain of it. I can’t. I’m human. This shit hurts. I’m not a robot. I’m not a machine. Flesh and blood like all y’all. I wasn’t spared any of it. This epoch has been challenging…..is challenging. I’m dealing with it the best way I can, but I can’t keep talking about it.

I’d rather not. I’m all fucking talked and cried out at the moment. We will pause for an intermission now. Cue the tranquil music, turn on the lights, let’s stretch out our legs and get a cool beverage. Let’s watch the stars and enjoy the fresh air and listen to the kids laughing while they play. Life is too fucking short to wallow.

I get that people want to know, but I’m officially done sharing it. We are moving on people. You hear me……

Moving on!!

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

6 thoughts on “Tired of talking about my problems”

  1. Yeah… talking about your problems usually causes more discomfort than the actual problem because it really makes you think about it as you try to explain to both the other person and yourself. It gets worse – and makes you not want to share – when whatever’s bugging you doesn’t get resolved or isn’t any closer to being resolved.

    So the best thing to do is not to make yourself sick over the matter… unless it’s something very serious and, if so, leaving in unresolved might not be a good thing. Sometimes, the best way to resolve some issues is to just “walk away” from them until your mind is in a better position to deal with it. Not talking about stuff, historically, isn’t good for one’s mental health since some things just sit and fester and instead of fading into the background, it just gets worse – damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

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    1. I hear ya.

      Right now things are so hard and complicated that I can only deal with what’s before me right at the moment. I don’t take on more. I just can’t. So I make a to do list and I just plug through it as best I can and focus on the things I can do, the things I can work on. Fate has a great deal to do now here too, so I’m just taking it one moment at a time and keeping my options open and my head as clear as possible. Hoping for the best.

      But I’m so done talking about it to people. I’m gonna reserve it all for my shrink. After all I’m paying her, she knows me much better than all these other people and I know her and how she feels about me. So it isn’t hard to tell her everything.

      And that’s my stance.


      1. Well, um, talking to your shrink is talking to someone, ain’t it? See, the thing about talking to others is whether or not they’re able to help, in that sense; might they say something that’ll get you saying, “Yeah! That’s it!” or is it usually a situation where they essentially wind up saying, “I don’t know what to tell you…” and you’re right back where you started and with all of this once more too fresh in your mind.

        You worry about the shit you can do something about; you put your nose to the grindstone and do your best to deal with the shit you can do something about and if you can’t, you kinda shake your head over it and put it with the rest of the stuff in your life that you’ve been presented with – and can’t do a damned thing about one way or the other. One thing at a time but even then you wind up having to prioritize stuff because life just ain’t gonna give you the time you need to work on stuff – that would be too much like right. You work a problem until there’s nothing else you can do at that moment – maybe you gotta wait on something or you’ve really done all you can do with it. Then what’s next on the list? Life is full of such drudgery but as in your other post, what defines us is how we go about handling this day in/day out drudergy and, yep, sometimes you just gotta get off the merry-go-round long enough to get your head screwed back on properly so you can catch your breath, organize your thoughts, and get right back on the merry-go-round.

        And I’m wondering about something – is your issue with talking to others about whatever really a thing of them not knowing you as you say your shrink does? I also wonder, if this is true, if that’s really why you feel the way you do about talking to others… because they don’t know you and you don’t feel comfortable or even confident talking to them about the stuff about yourself that only your shrink knows?

        Think about that one for a few seconds, you know, if you have a moment.

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        1. Yes. I absolutely do not feel comfortable talking to people about the minutiae of my life. It is sordid and sticky and unpleasant and tends to make people very uncomfortable. Then while the 3 people I talked to were all fine and responded with kindness and tried to offer compassion it is grueling even just going over it in my head because I have no real solutions and no one else does either.

          So it’s just pure torture really. I’m not sure why I even do it. Part of me feels some relief to be able to talk freely to people, which is not what I normally do and then part of me is like “I should probably just keep this all to myself, it isn’t benefitting anyone telling people this”. Know what I mean?


          1. I do know what you mean – and it’s what everyone who finds themselves i this situation tends to do. Some stuff about talking to others and what the real problem can be: They don’t know how to listen. One of the things men wind up having to learn is to listen to a woman and without trying to fix shit for her. Just listen but pay attention to what’s she’s saying and when you tell her that you understand, be very damned sure that you do and, if not, ask her to say more if she can.

            If a fix is being requested, well, say, I can tell you what I’d do because, duh, I know me better than I do you… that and chances are pretty good I have no real,idea of what you’re capable of… because there’s some stuff about you that you’ve learned to it say anything about to anyone… except someone whose job it is to be as impartial as humanly possible and to advise without any of their personal thoughts or biases discoloring the advice given.

            Oh… like a shrink. Importantly, they’re not gonna judge you and they’re also not gonna run around telling everyone you know those deeply private things about you other than what’s needed to go in the file they have on you. Indeed, the biggest problem here is talking to people who know you and the fact that they’re not as impartial or without biases as they probably should be when it comes to the subject of you.

            You’d rather talk to someone that doesn’t have a clue about you before you’ll talk to someone who’s close to you… and that’s pretty damned weird the way that works, ain’t it? It’s about having that ability to listen and when you say something, being able to be objective in whatever comes out of your mouth and also why professionals tend to answer a question with a question: How you you feel about that? If you could change something, what would it be?

            Stuff like that. Fact is, most people don’t know how to do this and anything they might say is more subjective than objective – what they’d do if it was them… which really doesn’t help you a whole lot. And since this ain’t helping you, you think it’s better to say nothing and keep whatever it is bottled up inside you…

            And then it starts to eat you from the inside out; people see this, ask what’s wrong,,, and you.


            Nothing… because to you, it serves no purpose, ain’t gonna help one bit so why waste the time and energy when you know for a fact it ain’t gonna do you any good. And the vicious cycle rolls right along. It’s like why there’s some stuff I won’t talk to my wife about… because I am well aware of her biases that’s gonna influence whatever she says and that depending on what it is, she just pretends to listen.

            So the thing you learn to do is be able to talk to someone even if all they really do is listen as you talk this out and through in your head.

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          2. I try really hard to listen to people. Just listen intensely before I even begin to think of anything. It always amazes me how good that makes people feel even when I don’t end up saying much if anything at all.

            Listening is a lost art in this fast paced world. It truly is.


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