Pittsburgh, but not Pittsburgh

I finally told the teenager about our financial situation. Not to stress her out but just to clue her in a bit. Kids are so much more perceptive than we think they are, and we are much more transparent then we think we are. It’s really hard to hide stress too. It seeps out and makes itself known in ways we never even realize.

So I told her, we may need to move somewhere where I can afford a two bedroom apartment on less than the alimony and child support I receive from their father. That way I could work at Burger King (per say) and we’d be fine. I explained that we can’t move back to CA or stay here as I refuse to move them to the ghetto and have them go to bad schools with teachers that are working way too hard in a system that fails everyone that is poor.

I mentioned Pittsburgh and I very over-dramatically held her and said “but we always have each other”. She laughed.

I love Oregon. I really do. It’s beautiful and has this laid back energy about it, not as laid back as Hawaii, but still really great. If we have to move, which is option #2 I want to move somewhere people embrace newcomers more though.

I’ve never experienced the pushback I feel here from some natives and even just long term settlers. It’s this territorial hatred almost. Not directed at me personally, but it’s there seething in some people. Misdirected rage at something that is out of their control and feels completely out of control to them. I get it but I don’t particularly like being caught in it.

How is it people’s fault that they want better for themselves and their children; that people want and need to move to where jobs are plentiful and there is more affordable housing, and a better quality of life for themselves. Isn’t that the way humans have always migrated; seeking a better life?

Anyway…..I’m thinking a quiet beach town with decent schools. Somewhere I can maybe set up my practice again or at least the spiritual healing aspect of it, eventually. IDK. I’m still in a holding pattern. But I’m trying to open my eyes to the possible necessity of a new horizon and see it as a positive and not a negative. After all, every action always has both negative and positive aspects to it and all change, even good change, can be hard.

But whatever happens, happens. I actually also applied for a temporary position as a writer for the Good News Network. Writing is so second nature to me and I would love nothing more than to be able to focus on happiness and putting positive energy into the world, plus it pays pretty decent too….even if it is only a 10 day assignment.

Life puts you where it wants you to be. I just keep reaching out for the possibilities; focusing on the good. Sometimes that’s all you can do and that to me is enough right now; enough to stay pretty happy….and that ain’t nothing. πŸ₯°

Enjoy yourselves today!!


Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

5 thoughts on “Pittsburgh, but not Pittsburgh”

  1. There is all kinds of opportunity in the East and if you stay out of the big cities, the cost of living isn’t bad at all. Go East Young Woman! (That’s a Horace Greeley rip-off)

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    1. Thanks David. Florida came up in the list of top “affordable beach cities with good schools”. But…..Florida?

      I’ve only ever lived in these two states now and a bit in Mexico as a kid. I may seem all bold and adventurous but it actually feels completely daunting. Wherever it is I’ll have to scout it out first. Which may mean a road trip. Cross country? By myself? Like these are all things I can’t wrap my head around quite yet.

      Extreme weather would be a bit hard for the girls as they’ve never lived anywhere like that and the teenager complains A LOT when the weather steps out of the 50-80 range as it is. Been around a complaining teenager lately? πŸ˜¬πŸ™„πŸ˜£. It can feel gruesome. Lol

      Kids acclimate though. Right? I like the seasons. I’m pretty open to wherever life takes me….just gets a bit more complicated with three tots in tow though. You know? πŸ€”


      1. Pittsburgh or a suburb is, believe it or not, pretty cosmopolitan. Lots of Pittsburgh ex-pats in Richmond, who move after college and all. Places like Roanoke, VA are only about 4-5 hours from the ocean, Richmond is 2hrs, Virginia Beach is, well, right there. Real estate prices fluctuate between affordable and pricey. Florida is a real shock. Winters are OK. Summers are Hell but the taxes are low. And real estate isn’t bad outside of the big cities.

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        1. Lol. Pittsburgh was just the first remote place that came to mind. I haven’t done much research yet. I will probably narrow it down to a few cities in a few states and then check them out. If I swing my Virginia I’ll make sure and stop in. Assuming the wifey would allow of course. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜š


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