I was reading a compilation of “100 sex, threesome, orgy stories that will make you want to give up sex”. I thought it would be funny and some were but mostly it was very, very sad.
Most seemed from young people with little experience about sex and a complete lack of body awareness. Not only not knowing their own body mechanics but not honoring themselves. As if their body was simply to be used as a tool with a complete disassociation to its true needs and capacities. As if their own flesh and blood didn’t merit kindness, love, compassion, time and decency.
As if they were just going through the motions of what they thought needed to happen instead of looking deep inside to what they truly wanted to happen. It showed me how people seem to have a complete disregard for themselves. And how on Earth will anyone have any regard for someone else if they can’t even come to terms with their own self? It’s possible and does happen that people treat others better than they treat themselves but it’s generally short lived, inauthentic, unsustainable, creates resentment and also begets more problems further along as it keeps going.
Like a snowball of shit rolling down a mountain. At it’s core it’s still shit, no matter how much snow surrounds it.
We aren’t taught self-love enough. We aren’t taught to truly enjoy our bodies in loving, respectful, healthy ways. Yes, our bodies are utilitarian, but it goes so beyond that also. I was thinking of buying my daughter a book on self love, aka masturbation. In more of a vein of self/body awareness. I think it’s important to truly appreciate oneself and ones body first before delving deeply into sex.
But who teaches people that? There is a huge disconnect between what we should be taught and what we are taught. Education seems very disassociated from our actual needs as human beings. To add dimension and awareness to the depths of our conscious and subconscious selves, the miracle of our bodies and life. It’s surreal to me that we have to go hunting for these things that will truly make our lives happy….like a secret quest no one tells us about.
In the whole mind, body, spirit dynamic of our existence far too much emphasis is placed on academics and far too little on body and spirit. Yet those are the very things that truly give our lives meaning and day to day quality of life happiness. It’s like some huge distraction tactic. I don’t get it. I really don’t get it.
Thousands and thousands and thousands of years of this crap and things seem no better for humanity. But hey…..look at all those nuclear weapons we have. Thanks academia. Thanks science. How many world’s can we blow up now? Cuz that’s not retarded at all.
Screw it. Fuck away kiddos. Just be safe and kind with yourselves and each other. Please!!