Lost Readers

I’ve lost many readers this last week. I feel it has more to do with the content of my posts than the busyness of life but I completely understand. I’ve accepted the fact that my blog will never be mainstream. But I’m also not trying to win any popularity contests or monetize it.

This is my way to exorcise my own demons. This is my way to open myself up and process my experiences. They are definitely not all pretty, but this is all I have. This is what I offer.

I called Mary today and she will be helping me with the sexual trauma healing. She seemed to (I’m sure rightly) feel that this is a main aspect of my sexual and partner dysfunction. She said that she healed herself from sexual trauma as well with hypnotherapy. I’m excited to be able to work directly on a deeper psyche level with my issues but I have also purposefully never let myself be hypnotized before.

This is a level of trust I can’t say I am very comfortable with but the time has come to tackle this head on and this is one way to try to do that.

I refuse to give up on myself but at the same time I am more than willing to become asexual if that is what needs to happen to ensure the safety of my children.


The specialized therapist was a bit shocked when she asked me how I was doing with watching porn and I told her I simply wasn’t doing it. She asked me how and I told her I just don’t. There are so many aspects to sex. So much one can do. Porn is, if anything, probably the most easily accessible but also the most isolating way to enjoy sex.

Solo sex is probably the least enjoyable form of sex to me and porn just reinforces that and is also a slippery slope right now. Plus I don’t need it. And when the thought pops in my head I just switch subjects. Busy myself with something else. Another thought. A chore. Something. Anything. Just not that.

I’ve had to retrain myself this way for decades. It was my depression at first. Then addiction. So porn was not that hard considering I had only been watching it a few weeks when I realized it was becoming a problem. 3 hours of porn in one day is extreme for anyone let alone someone as busy and with as many responsibilities as I have.

I still think porn is great. I enjoy how it crosses all barriers and encompasses all fetishes. But I don’t enjoy the staged stuff so much and I also don’t enjoy how very, very devious and destructive it can be. And where is the making love porn?? I’m still pissed that isn’t more mainstream.


I remember once talking to a charmingly sweet guy at a bar and he was telling me how his sister’s husband was addicted to porn. This was about 18 years ago and I know the issue has become almost an epidemic now. I had just finished reading an article in the paper about how the spouse (in this case predominantly women) needed to find a way to bring themselves back into the sex equation for their partner.

The article suggested at first watching porn together and understanding any needs that maybe weren’t being fulfilled sexually but also gradually pulling the spouse away from virtual sex to real sex. This was, of course, assuming the spouse was wanting to engage sexually and also wanted to do all this work. Which maybe a psychologist would be just as helpful with. Maybe.


I appreciate those of you that have stuck with me. I truly do. I appreciate the votes of confidence, the words of encouragement. I appreciate you taking the time to spend on my musings. Time is a commodity that is more valuable than gold. And I can’t thank you enough for spending it with me.


Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

18 thoughts on “Lost Readers”

    1. Wow. Married a virgin. That’s awesome. I wish I had had that innocence sometimes. And I love reading and writing. And you’re right. It’s a necessary outlet for me.


        1. Oh yikes. That’s not fun…..for you.

          You built yourself up none the less, which is a testament to your strong spirit. That’s amazing. Truly.

          So many people fail when they have a bad parental foundation and yet…… here you are…..Queen boxer extraordinaire. Inspiration to us all. πŸ™πŸ½πŸ₯°πŸ₯Š


          1. Tell me about it, but better late than never and you’ve rocked it out pretty well I think. Which is a huge kudos to you. You need to own that. I think it’s amazing. πŸ₯°πŸ’–


  1. I am here and not going anywhere. Everyone needs a space and if people are uncomfortable that is their issue. I enjoy reading your posts even if I don’t always interact. Like the silent stalker I am always here just without any weirdness like spying through your windows. Hugs and always open for a chat. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you Jay-lyn,

      That’s so kind and uplifting. I’ll take it. Silent stalker and all. Lol

      I once had a peeping Tom and I was more shocked than angry. My ex husband made me call the police and tell the apartment management but I thought it was curious more than anything. Why some young kid (late teens/early 20’s) would want to watch some older fat woman breastfeed her child was a huge oddity to me. It still is truthfully. But I do understand liking to watch the real thing as opposed to virtually. That’s what I love to much about sex clubs. The real thing is more real, unedited, has more emotions to it, more nuances. I guess breastfeeding porn is a thing. Maybe.

      I’m sorry I haven’t kept up on your gorgeous poetry. I do so love it. Poetry is very seriously undervalued in society. To say so much and paint such an in depth picture in so little words is an art to itself. Especially when done as well as you do it. πŸ’–πŸ€—


  2. If you are looking for spme good amateur porn, I have reviewed some good ones. I like porn with intimacy between real people. Staged stuff does nothing for me. The real deal amateur stuff gives me the feels AND gets me off. And can even be funny. Just putting that out there. 😊 And don’t worry about readers. Focus on self-expression in whatever form that takes. I enjoy the rawness of your content. Keep it cumming lol

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    1. Thank you. I will take you up on that but not right now. Let me get through these 5 weeks of hypnotherapy first and then we can test the waters.

      “The feels”. That’s cute. I know what you mean. That is exactly what I have been looking for. Intimacy. Seems a lost art. Like a lot of other truly valuable emotions and values.

      Thanks!! πŸ’–πŸ₯°πŸ¦‹

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