I’m not a closer

Being a business owner makes you acutely aware of where your successes and weaknesses. One of my weaknesses is most definitely sales. While I test well at it*, I am not a closer. Even if I am passionate about what I am doing and believe in it 200% I’m just not a pushy person. I prefer people come to me of their own volition.

Today I got a call for eBay work. They had a few questions and we left it open ended. I didn’t ask them anything or offer more. I didn’t ask them to meet. It was a quick, pleasant exchange of the information they requested and once I hung up I realized I could have pursued it more. It seems as if I should feel bad, as if I should strive for more and yet I don’t.

Closing to me feels completely unnatural and no matter how many times it’s been explained to me it’s never been explained in a way I can understand, grasp and apply.

We all have forte’s. Maybe if that were mine I wouldn’t be struggling so much. Maybe, maybe, maybe…..in this case it’s closer to probably. I was talking to a fellow colon hydrotherapist and she told me she takes her agenda book everywhere and when she gives a digestive talk she books at least one person. I have never done that, not once. I wouldn’t even know how unless they specifically asked me for a booking.

I’ve succeeded at businesses and school and work but not once based on having to be a closer. I flourished just based on being me. Hoping that works for me now or I’m gonna need some help.


Watching a movie called Temple Grandin with Claire Danes and I can relate to how she feels and what she says and even how she thinks**. It’s about an autistic women and based on a true story. I’m not gonna say it……not gonna say anything at all. But it doesn’t make me question things about my childhood and myself a little more.

I’m going to keep resting up for the next few hours see if I can get this head cold to clear a bit for my next client.



*Which is how I got offered a job as a car salesman twice; neither of which I took and I’m kind of regretting that right now. I probably could have learned some useful skills there.

**A little. I am definitely not that smart.

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

3 thoughts on “I’m not a closer”

    1. Wow. Yeah. There is a huge spectrum. That’s for sure. And honestly there isn’t as much shame attached as their used to be. I think it’s still wildly misunderstood but…. no one needs a label to be who they are, love that person and be loved. Right?


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