Line in the Sand – grateful kids?

I lost it a tiny bit today on my middle child. I yelled at her and probably made her feel horrible, but it’s all I could do to not have a full blown meltdown. She stopped me in the middle of my mad rush to get to a client to tell me how much she wants her own room. Now. I never lived with a sibling. For a few years I shared a room with my dad’s girlfriends daughter but I knew better than to think to complain. I was raised much differently.

Of course, one wants their children to have better than one did and one never wants their child to have worries about money or “adult problems”. So this is essentially an understandable kid problem but I lost 6 bookings this week with a couple that was too distracted to cancel them ahead of time.

So I said to her “I really need you to be grateful for what you have. It may not be exactly what you want but it’s still pretty good. You have a roof over your head and food to eat.”. I went on for longer than she wanted and she left deflated and sullen but I swear to God……

Where is that fine line between shielding them from our problems and facing them with reality? Do I tell them how I’m struggling to just maintain even that much for them? I can’t even bare to think about it.

I love them so much. I want for them the world. Damn kids!! Maybe we should go feed the homeless, or do some volunteer work. Maybe I’m doing them a disservice trying to make their life happy and bright.

Don’t I have enough on my plate? Seriously though. Goodness!! πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

8 thoughts on “Line in the Sand – grateful kids?”

    1. I definitely try to do that but then they start acting like one a day it bothers me. My teenager refused to have a birthday party or gathering or even sleepover last year because she knows how tight things are. Things like that make me a bit proud (that she is so conscientious) but they break my heart a little too.

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  1. Sometimes parents are so obsessed giving their children what they didn’t have, they forget to give them what they DID have, you know?
    I mean, if a person caves in to every single whims and fancy of their child, they end up spoilt and eventually face the harsh realities of life a bit too late the hard way.
    So it’s important to find that right balance between shielding them from the world, while at the same time exposing them to it just enough.

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    1. Agreed. Very much so. There is a balance. Last night when I was kissing her goodnight she says “mama, I am grateful for our house and our food” and she does tell me how much she appreciates allowed I do. Which I sincerely think she does. But.. these things happen. Is definitely rather argue about stupid stuff like that than have very serious issues.

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      1. Aww, that sounds so freaking cute. She seems like a wonderful child and I have no children so I wouldn’t know how to raise a child but I have no doubt you’d raise yours to grow up to be an empathetic and wise adult. And like you said, there aren’t many things to have an argument over a 11 year old haha.

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