I’m going to preface this by saying that it’s as easy as you make it out to be. For the vast majority of people, myself included, it is not easy. Maybe because this isn’t modeled for us and we generally learn best by example; but that’s just my supposition.
1) forgive yourself (and others)
A) whatever it takes: reparations, pilgrimage, prayer, tribute, changing, figure it out and do it and keep doing it until you’ve genuinely attained forgiveness from yourself for yourself and others (if ~healthily~ possible)
2) accept all
A) yea all of it. Even the shitty parts. The parts you don’t understand. The parts you want to deny even exist. Yep. All of it!
3) have no fear
A) yes easier said than done. I get that. But fear isn’t logical. Logic is logical. Tackle shit head-on (when you know what the right thing to do is – follow your heart and instincts) which is all easier to do if you have done step 2.
4) embrace it
A) it’s a bit of a reiteration of step 3 only slightly different. Where in step 3 you stand firm in step 4 you progress towards it. Not in a literal sense necessarily and I’ll give you an example.
In hot yoga I tend to get migraines; especially when I started and/or start up again or am having a hard time in class. So what I do is when I start to feel it coming on I lay down on the mat and I find the pain and I take it and dance with it…. to “La Bamba”. I take that upper right cortex pain and I groove with it and embrace it and it has worked every single time; except once I think. And I’m sure there was another factor there. Yes…. I remember there was an odd chemical smell in the room that day.
We don’t live in a world geared towards living these principles easily…. but maybe that’s why achieving even small moments of deep serenity and bliss are all the more beautiful for it. Ask me when I’m dead. I’ll have all the answers then……I’m pretty sure. 😝😝🌈
And as an aside. You can’t do any of these steps if you aren’t mindful. If you aren’t paying attention. Distractions are distracting. It takes sitting and seeing the shit to deal with the shit. Trust me. I do this for a living. It’s not overwhelming if you just hold a space for trust and for yourself. At the core… at my base…. in my soul…. I am ok. No matter what happens on the outside. Some days I tell myself that over and over if need be.
I am love
You are love
We all have that core inside of us
If you can find it
Bring it forth
Every moment possible
All moments if possible
It will change your life
I can’t put it any easier than that
I never said it was going to be easy. Refer to very first sentence.