I’ve been in serious therapy for over 2 years now. This wonderful woman got me through my divorce and has seen me grow into the person I have become. She is not always thrilled about my choices but helps me navigate them as safely as possible. One of the main reasons I began seeing her was because she does EMDR.
Truthfully in all this time we have maybe done 10 sessions of it; at most. But what I learned from her was to do it to myself; and that has been truly life changing. Whenever I hit upon a trigger or find myself spiraling into heavy anxiety I use EMDR to walk my way out of it; quickly and effectively.
It’s easy. When I get into a memory that is overwhelming or into heavy thoughts I can’t seem to control I immediately cross my arms and tap the left side of my body with my right hand and the right side of my body with my left hand. I breath deeply and just let the thoughts come full force at me while I do this tapping, not trying to do anything but watch where they go of their own accord. With no added input, no judgment, no control, just letting be what is happening inside my body/mind.
Very quickly then the mind seems to move on and I find myself calmer. Sometimes it doesn’t work on the first go and I give myself breaks. I don’t tap for more than 30 seconds at a time; then access where I am and if I need more. One day I got to yoga class and realized my stress was through the roof and my thoughts would not settle down, so I tapped while I laid on the mat and everyone could see me. I didn’t care. I needed to self sooth. It worked excellently and I had a great session.
The way I see it, we can not fully give of ourselves when we are running on empty. We can not fully be present to life when we are balls of stress and anxiety. We can not achieve inner peace and happiness if we can not center ourselves. It is NOT selfish to nurture ourselves. It is NOT selfish to give ourselves what we need to survive in this crazy world….to give ourselves compassion, tenderness and care.
Sure some people take it too far and some people don’t know anything but their own needs to begin with. EMDR is not for these people. lol. EMDR is for the sensitive and loving among us who find deep pain in life and in living. People who have experienced terrors and hardships that would make most people fall to their knees weeping; begging for an end to it all. People who are a little bit or a lot a bit broken inside. I know this works; and that something so simple, with no cost, and very little time commitment works so phenomenally well truly boggles my mind.
Just like meditation, exercise, communing with nature and so much more. Simple things that can heal and nurture and make a huge difference in day to day living and yet so few people take advantage of them. I don’t get it. I mean I do get laziness and I even understand skepticism but when there is no harm in trying something that could provide such great benefits….that I really don’t understand.
Human behavior is so intriguing and yet a lot of times can be disappointing as well. It’s not me to tell people how to behave and what to do. I typically won’t do so unless directly asked to since I don’t like wasting my time and energy unnecessarily.
Life is so funny and crazy and weird. I’m just rolling with it. Thank you…..everyone!! You…there…now….reading this….I send you a blessing; a heartfelt hug. My reality to your reality, my heart bows to yours.🙏🏽❤️
Why not? Because I can and I want to….if you must know a reason.
Goodnight crazy ass world!!💋