I opened a Tinder account and then gave my Fetlife handle on it. I really love Fetlife. I’ve talked to and met some great people from it, but I’m a bit burnt out on all the men just wanting to play. That part gets exhausting. All the guys wanting me to give them of myself and my time for barely anything in return. This is what I told a guy yesterday:
“Honestly. I want a husband. I like family life, but I have a horribly high sexual drive and I’m not all vanilla; as you can see from my photos. In an ideal world I’d like a sub or switch to fall madly in love with. But…..we shall see. All anyone seems to want on here are play partners and so I decided it was in my financial interest to entertain men this way. But hardly anyone wants to pay. Everyone wants me to have sex and/or fulfill their sub desire for free. Like I have nothing better to do and I should feel like it’s my honor to do it.”
I get it. Everyone thinks they are special and that even if they know they aren’t the only one wanting the same thing that because they want it I should be willing to give it to them. Why? Just because they really want it? For my benefit? Because the other 49 guys in line ahead of them weren’t good enough? Because what they have to offer in exchange will make it worth it?
I get it. Everyone has an angle. Everyone wants to be satisfied and fulfilled in their own distinct way and the way I like to be in a relationship and play is not the way most women enjoy. A lot of women don’t know or understand the power dynamic of female led sex and relationships. Plus most women definitely do not grasp the huge fun male submission/feminization can be. I totally get it!! But I just get a bit frustrated with all the boys and men offering themselves and sometimes services for play. Please go find someone else to play with!!
I have my own quest. My own needs to fulfill. Sex is easy. Sex and play I can get at the drop of a hat anywhere, anytime. I don’t want just sex. I don’t just want my pussy eaten perfectly. I don’t just want to peg a man. I’m ranting. I don’t mean to be.
This is why I started up on Tinder again*, because I hope to maybe find a man who is very sexual but looking for something of real substance and no I’m not just trying to jump into getting married. You need time to really get to know someone, even in the very intimate and intense FLR dynamic.
Unfortunately though, it makes me feel very vulnerable because I am now soliciting a lot of vanilla judgment and I’m not sure men who have no awareness of this lifestyle would understand me and my intense needs. It would seem like a game maybe; like a minor preference and not a legitimate mode of being in a relationship.
Well…..that’s the chance I take I suppose. Does it matter to the vanilla guy that I’ve never actually taken a Domme job yet? Does it matter to the “sub/sissy/CD” willing to pay that I’ve never charged anyone to play with me before? Lol. Probably. Soo fucking complicated. I just have to laugh at how absurd my life is sometimes…..even to me.
I’m not trying to put anyone off though. I still try to see things from everyone’s point of view and be as kind as I can be. Since kindness costs nothing save patience most times. I’m at least glad my updated Fetlife profile has started putting people off from contacting me because it was all getting a bit ridiculous.
So listen up boys….if any of you are paying close attention. I don’t want to just play. Play (and sex) I can get anywhere, anytime….very, very literally. I have a rolodex full of potential/willing/wanting sex and play partners. I want the real deal. If that isn’t for you….great. No harm, no foul. Leave me alone!!!
Please and thank you. 💋❤️
(Being polite is not overrated.😉)
*I was on Tinder back in November if anyone is keeping track and I enjoyed a lot of great dates but realized it was all too vanilla for me. The only one small adventure that developed was within a very kinky dynamic. Te he he