So I have analyzed and figured out my Domme style. I will go right into Domme space if I am freely allowed to do so. In other words I do not demand it, it must be offered to me. I will bloom naturally into that dominance once the space is created. It can’t be pushed onto or pulled out of me either. In order to be my most sensual it must stir within me by its own accord. Like a wild beast come to life.
I am also an extremely loving and doting Domme. Some call it a sensual Domme but to me it goes beyond that. I must genuinely care for the person under my dominion or the game doesn’t work well. I also don’t do humiliation or degradation. I don’t have use for human furniture and I don’t see the point to some of the rituals, but who’s to say they can’t be fun when you’re drawing blanks for spicy new things to try.
I just have this need to be the dominant in the bedroom* and the one in control of the dynamics of the relationship. I also have this need to be worshipped and adored, to be romanced and given an inordinate amount of affection, touch and tokens/displays of love. It isn’t negotiable. It is an absolute necessity.
In vanilla dating I have not gone on second dates with men or returned calls when I felt a lack of them realizing their proper place and while I do not mind reprimanding and have done so to total strangers before I refuse to do that with potential partners. Hop on the bus from the start, find your place and enjoy the ride or find another way to get to where you’re going because it isn’t going to be with me. Lol
It’s nice to know myself. It’s even nicer to know I can develop this even further and truly have what I have always wanted. Yippee-Kay-Yay**
*mostly. I do like vanilla and I also like to switch or be topped at my discretion.
**I love that phrase. Can you tell?