Rage Against “Nice Guys”

Let me preface this by saying that all my life I have been surrounded by nice guys. Boys and men that genuinely looked out for me, shielded me, protected me, loved me, taught me self love and acceptance and were just all around truly great guys.

Not to say I haven’t had run-ins with the opposite too. This rant is about the men that are neither of these. This is about what I call the in-between men.

Here is my take on that. I have met so many men who have ulterior motives and thoughts. They come at you all “hey….what about you?” When they really mean “hey, I want this!” I find it not only completely disingenuous; I also find it extremely boring.

Say what you mean and mean what you say!! If you want to fuck me, walk right up to me and just say it. I would A) respect you as a person a lot more B) engage with you in a more real way. That may mean a slap to the face or a cute smirk and a walk away so you can look at my ass or whatever…but it will be real!!

All this “what can I do for you to get what I want; while we pretend I don’t really want anything” is so fucking tedious. Ugghhhh. And it just lacks personality. The “I’m just gonna do what all guys do and keep myself buttoned up and put a nice guy smile on and see what I can get”.

For Gods sakes…..who are you?? You?? The real you. What does he want? What does he need? What does he want to really say? Can he come out to play?

The “nice guy” schtick is so played out and just abysmal. If you are genuinely a good guy trust that it is absolutely apparent from the get-go. The rest of you. Man-fucking-up and be yourselves. Don’t you want to be liked for you and not some game your playing? Not some persona your propping up for some gain?

I don’t know. I just don’t get it. It doesn’t work with me. Maybe it works with other girls. Personally I’d rather fuck an outright asshole than an idiot that doesn’t know how to be genuinely himself. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE nice guys and there are plenty out there. But come on guys….cut the crap.

Author: porngirl3

I have always enjoyed reading and writing. Maybe because I have always been on the quiet and reclusive side; which most people may not guess at first glance or if seeing me in a social setting, especially around people I am comfortable with but it’s also not something I have an issue with. I need solitude to recharge. Writing gives me the peace and time to renew myself...here that is offered to you for your enjoyment and pleasure as well. I hope. Lol

3 thoughts on “Rage Against “Nice Guys””

  1. Most people don’t truly know themselves. This attitude is right across the dating scene in every genre. We’ve turned dating and sex into such an easy thing to acquire any attitude things he can get it. I guess it works for some of them but not others. I suppose it depends on agendas. Doesn’t work for me either.

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    1. I’ve been thinking about your comment all day. You are absolutely right. Most people don’t know themselves. I have been on a very deep self-exploration/ inner healing journey and it has been the most challenging and yet most beautiful things I have ever done for myself. I wish this was taught to people. What we actually learn in school is pathetic. What our parents model for us is so status quo and let’s not talk about the media.

      But when people like you and I push boundaries and ask people to re-examine themselves and their ideologies. That we can slowly create a shift for everyone. Maybe? Lol

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      1. We can only hope, but a lot of people are blinkered because they don’t want to look again. I have a whole new journey of exploration just beginning. I expect I am going to find out a lot more about myself. You’re never too late to learn. 🙂

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