Let me preface this by saying that all my life I have been surrounded by nice guys. Boys and men that genuinely looked out for me, shielded me, protected me, loved me, taught me self love and acceptance and were just all around truly great guys.
Not to say I haven’t had run-ins with the opposite too. This rant is about the men that are neither of these. This is about what I call the in-between men.
Here is my take on that. I have met so many men who have ulterior motives and thoughts. They come at you all “hey….what about you?” When they really mean “hey, I want this!” I find it not only completely disingenuous; I also find it extremely boring.
Say what you mean and mean what you say!! If you want to fuck me, walk right up to me and just say it. I would A) respect you as a person a lot more B) engage with you in a more real way. That may mean a slap to the face or a cute smirk and a walk away so you can look at my ass or whatever…but it will be real!!
All this “what can I do for you to get what I want; while we pretend I don’t really want anything” is so fucking tedious. Ugghhhh. And it just lacks personality. The “I’m just gonna do what all guys do and keep myself buttoned up and put a nice guy smile on and see what I can get”.
For Gods sakes…..who are you?? You?? The real you. What does he want? What does he need? What does he want to really say? Can he come out to play?
The “nice guy” schtick is so played out and just abysmal. If you are genuinely a good guy trust that it is absolutely apparent from the get-go. The rest of you. Man-fucking-up and be yourselves. Don’t you want to be liked for you and not some game your playing? Not some persona your propping up for some gain?
I don’t know. I just don’t get it. It doesn’t work with me. Maybe it works with other girls. Personally I’d rather fuck an outright asshole than an idiot that doesn’t know how to be genuinely himself. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE nice guys and there are plenty out there. But come on guys….cut the crap.