I went to the sex club last Friday and within 10 minutes a beautiful boy wanted to sit beside me. He immediately enthralled me. He told me he had a Mistress and gave me the ins and outs of the Portland Sex Club Scene. There are a handful of clubs here including a very exclusive invitation only one. I was deeply intrigued by it all and by him.
I wanted to kiss his sweet, plump lips. When he asked me for a kiss I initially said no….he had informed me his Mistress lets him play as long as there was no sex. And well…..it was a combination of the way he looked at me (like I was going to be his), what he said, how he acted towards me (mostly subservient and docile but with a little bit of push) and how he made me feel (lustful) that had me desirous of touching him, kissing him, enjoying him.
We made our way to the private rooms and before we went in I asked him how old he was. I was completely taken aback when he said “22”. I don’t have a good sense of people’s ages. I often get that game wrong. I hesitated less than a moment. I knew we wouldn’t be having sex.
For starters I didn’t want to and then he couldn’t. It was the perfect situation. The thought that he could be my son made me laugh. I wasn’t going to marry the boy…and he was well past consenting age. Lol
It was spectacular!! Best make-out session that wasn’t love based. I lost a contact during. That’s never happened. We got to play roughly and I flashed back to Sage and how much I loved that and I let loose on him. Not drawing blood or leaving marks. He isn’t mine to do that to. He has a Domme.
Speaking of…when I went to friend him on fetlife (mistressg3) he got in massive trouble with his Mistress. Poor thing. I hope it was worth it for him. Turns out I wasn’t his first dalliance away from their rule structure. I messaged his gorgeous Master my sincerest apologies and offered her a bit of advice.
Hopefully it helped. In his defense he is obviously, truly in love with her. I could tell from how he talked about her and the pictures of them together, but he seems to be having difficulty with his boundaries. If they don’t come to terms they both can accept they may be doomed.
Is it her job to punish him to make him comply? Is it his job to comply willingly? Is it their job to find a system that actually works? I don’t have the answer. Psychologically speaking, I would think the latter would be the most effective, but the first two are suppose to be the game so maybe all 3.*Lol
I did all I could to make them understand that in the structure they have chosen he must submit before being asked to and she must decide for herself what she really needs to be completely satisfied…just giving in to his behavior is not going to solve anything and waiting for it to happen again won’t solve anything. It’s like any other addiction. Although he deeply likes the punishment; being pro-active does more to actually remedy the situation somewhat. But it’s all so situational really.
There is still hard work in this structure but there is a greater freedom to be who you genuinely are and have your deepest desires met. With genuine, open communication it is a very precious space to be in; a space where you can mutually satisfy each other’s needs.
The hardest part is figuring that out (your deepest needs) and navigating that with someone else’s needs. But….every lid has its pot. I know now….finally…….45 years in the making what I need. The level of devotion. The level of passion. The power dynamic. I found my own self in the rubble of what has been a long hard road.
*Maybe it’s not all that simple because they also both switch. That’s something that seems to add a bit more difficulty to this lifestyle. I happen to think it’s worth it though.